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Thought Strategies On Insecurity With Joey Klein Of Inner Matrix Systems

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  • “Insecurity plays by a certain set of rules. It tells us we’re not enough, that we don’t have enough, and that we’re not good enough. It can be a loop that we get stuck in.”
  • When you notice feelings of insecurity, acknowledge the thoughts in the mind and then redirect your focus to thoughts that will produce the outcome you want.
  • “Note when you’re in the theme of thought of “not enough,” and instead commit to redirecting yourself and naming the outcome you’re looking for.”
  • If you’re looking for tips on how to understand and overcome insecurity, this episode is for you.
  • Watch the video to get the full training.





 Full Transcript:


[The following is the full transcript of this episode of Joey’s Performance Tune Up With Joey Klein. Please note that this episode, like all episodes, features Joey speaking unscripted and unedited. This video is captured in one take.]


In this session, we are going to go into the thought strategies that essentially fuel insecurity. So when we feel insecure, what's the mind doing? And if we can catch the mind in the act of these themes, we can redirect, and therefore, insecurity will become less a part of our life. And when we need to shift the feeling of insecurity, because we need to perform, and maybe we need to go more toward confidence as an example, we'll be able to do that. But one of the key things that we need to develop an ability or capacity for when looking to train love based states like confidence, inspiration, empowerment, etc, is we've got to notice when we're in a fear based state and essentially stop the train and disengage that which is fueling, in this case, insecurity. And so insecurity is actually a very simple theme that's playing out in the mind in one way or another, which is simply a theme of, of how we're not being enough or how we don't have enough or how we're not good enough. And it can show up in a lot of different ways, a lot of different contexts. 


It can be, you know, I'm not good enough because I'm looking at people around me and I'm comparing and I'm going, man, I don't have what they have, right? I have less wealth or I have less, you know, houses, or I don't have as many cars as them, or my car's not as nice. And we go into this interesting, you know, comparison reality where we are perceiving ourself as having less than, and then we define ourself as less than because of that perception. And so we gotta redirect that. Like, at the end of the day, it doesn't matter what other people have relative to you. What matters is, do you have what it is you want? Right. And if you don't have something that you want, well, insecurity isn't gonna drive you to get it, you know, confidence will. And so we gotta shift the emotion in order to produce the outcomes that we really want for ourself. 


We can also look at not enough as a fear reality. I'm not smart enough, I'm not capable of doing this. I don't have the talent other people have. I'm not sure that I can do these things that I wanna do because I don't have the IQ that others have, or I don't have a college education or a college degree. And so it's like these two things play off each other in terms of I'm not enough, and then we validate it by way of what we don't have, and then they kind of, they kind of reinforce each other. Well, I don't have this, and therefore I'm not enough. Well, I'm not enough, and that's why I don't have it. And I don't have it, and therefore I'm not enough. And then the mind just spirals. It just circles in that unproductive loop around, essentially why we're not enough and how we don't have enough or how we don't have what we want. And then that validates that we're not enough, and then it becomes this vicious cycle. 


And so if you pay attention, just start looking at the mind as opposed to opting in or buying into the thoughts that are occurring in the mind simply because the mind is thinking these things, start to just sort of take note of it and just acknowledge, hey, if the mind continues this theme that I'm not enough or it's not enough, it's gonna fuel insecurity, and it's probably gonna keep me from the things I aspire to. So my job right now is to redirect the focus of the mind as opposed to continue to entertain these ideas and these thoughts. And if you can get good at that, then you're gonna start moving away from insecurity and toward the things that you wanna create in your life, the things you wanna fulfill in your life, but more importantly, the way you wanna feel within yourself as you're doing life. 


And so just remember to watch for the theme of it's not enough. Right? I'm not enough because I'm not tall enough, or I'm a little heavy, or I'm not enough because I failed college, or I dropped out, or I don't have a degree, or other people have more than I do, or I'm not as smart as other people. I mean, we could go on and on with those thoughts endlessly, and at the end of the day, they're just gonna make us feel bad, and they're not gonna move us toward any better outcome. So a better tactic is, note when you're in the theme of I'm not enough, when is the mind thinking that? Or I don't have enough? Right? I don't have what I want, and instead just go, hey, that's not gonna create the outcome that I'm looking for. That's gonna fuel insecurity. It's okay that I'm here, I need to redirect and then start focusing on the things you'd like to create. Start affirming what you do have. Start affirming how you are enough, the things that make you capable and enough and valued. 


And it all starts in your willingness to think in a way that is different than the way the mind may be oriented right now in order to change your life. It always starts from the inside and then moves outside. You don't have to believe the thoughts to think them initially. Like, you can say I'm enough and not believe it. And you can affirm that you can learn like everybody else. You just have to be willing to do it right. You can start to affirm and give yourself permission as to why you're enough and why you can create the things you want, even if it doesn't, you know, make sense to you yet, even if you don't believe in it yet, even if you don't buy into it yet. But what I find is that if people think new things enough, they tend to start to buy in. They start to believe in it, and then that tends to translate to different and new outcomes in their life. 


And so watch out for the I'm not enough theme and know that if you're feeling insecure, there's probably some theme of what I don't have or how and why I'm not enough. And our job is to just catch  it, stop it, and then start redirecting in some other way. And so I hope this is helpful. Play with this over the next few weeks and see where it takes you.