SUMMARY

“Power shows up when your mind says: I can do this.”

• The more you affirm “I can,” especially when circumstances say otherwise, the more access you have to your power.
• 🎥 Watch the full episode to strengthen your mind and ignite what's possible.

DISGUST

“The problem isn’t you—it’s the impossible ideal you’re comparing yourself to.”

• The key to breaking the loop? Choose realistic, healthy goals—and measure your growth, not your gaps.
• 🎥 Watch the full episode to let go of disgust and embrace grounded, human progress.

PEACE

“Acceptance clears the way for action that works.”

• The more you align with “this is how it is right now,” the more freedom you unlock to act wisely and powerfully.
• 🎥 Watch the full episode to access peace not as a reward—but as a way of living.

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 Full Transcript:

[The following is the full transcript of this episode of Joey’s Performance Tune Up With Joey Klein. Please note that this episode, like all episodes, features Joey speaking unscripted and unedited. This video is captured in one take.]

In this session of emotion rules, we are going to talk about power. And what do we tend to do when we're feeling a sense of power? We're feeling powerful. There tends to be the theme of possibility present. You can even just think of it very simply as, like, I can do x, I can do it. I'm capable of it. And so whenever power is present there, there's a sense of I'm capable, right? And we can always focus on the fact that we can do something or we can focus on the fact that we can't do it. And typically, when a sense of power is there, what reinforces power in the mind is affirming why we can do things. 

And so when I was a martial artist, we used to train, and the body would get so tired. And if you've been an athlete before, really pushed yourself into workout, it's like the body wants to give up. My martial arts master used to say, your body will give up. Your mind will give up far before your body will. He said, don't worry about it. Your mind will always give up far before your body will. And if your body truly gives up, all you'll do is pass out and wake back up. And so if you want to be powerful, it's about truly developing a strength of mind inside of, I can do it. And so when I was really tired in training, whether it would be doing push ups or we would be kicking, you get to that sense of, like, you feel like you can't do another pushup, you can't do another kick, you can't go for another second. But if you find it in the mind, I can do one more, I can do one more, I can do it. It's like all of a sudden, the feeling that's there in the body or the tired or the exhaustion is, I can't possibly do another set, I can't possibly do one more. And then all of a sudden, you do 100 more, right? 

And so it's like the strength of mind really is cultivated and trained inside of that understanding of possibility, inside of, I can do it, right? I can do this, I can make that happen. And one of the biggest reasons why, you know, some people create the life of their dreams and most do not is for whatever reason, the individual who creates it one day  wakes up and goes, wait a minute, I'm gonna do this. I can do it. And then they just keep in that flow and they keep reinforcing, you know, why it is that they can do it, why it is that it's gonna be possible for them, even though they are sort of confronted with the evidence to the contrary. 

Matter of fact, it's more important when life is presenting you evidence to the contrary that things are working out  that you're going to be able to succeed or achieve the things that you want to be in the space of, I can do it, this is going to work out. I'm going to find a way through. It's more important then than ever than any other time, because that's when you're faced with opposition. And the time you want to be powerful, like when you're doing a really hard workout, is when you are facing opposition. That's the moment you want to say, I can do it, and you want to push forward. 

Because if we don't and we stop and we start getting in that space of it's not possible and I can't and it won't occur, it's like, that's why we usually don't realize the things that we really want for ourselves when we could. And so if we want to become more powerful, you want to fuel power, pay attention to what the emotion of power tends to direct the mind to think, and let's start thinking that as a way of being. And so the themes that you really want to reinforce, to access a sense of power and feeling more powerful, is that sense of I can do it, this is possible. Here's why it's going to occur. And there's that theme of thinking that occurs in the mind when we're feeling that sense of power and capacity. 

And so no matter what's happening, and remember, when we  have times of difficulty and challenge, that is often the most  important time to be in the frame of we can do it, I can do it, this is possible, it's going to occur, and then give ourselves evidence as to why that is. And if we stay with that focus and that theme, we're going to feel more powerful. We're going to give ourselves permission to take those next steps. And then eventually you tend to get your outcome and so enjoy, and we'll see you in another session soon.

So in this session, we're going to break down disgust. So many people can get caught in feelings of disgust, feeling disgust in themselves, disgusted in others, disgusted about the world and man, is it not a great experience of life to be inside of. And so if we understand what drives disgust, we can catch it and hopefully redirect. And so if we look at, well, what does disgust drive? It's an obsession on imperfection, right. We tend to be focused on, in an obsessive way, on the imperfections, the imperfections of ourself, of other people. And then we relate to that in the judgment sense of how it should be. And so we're obsessing about imperfection while comparing to the way that it's not. And so the two themes are the way it's not, and a focusing on the imperfection in a pretty obsessive way. And so we can do that in regard to any space in life, right. 

When we look at our body, we can pick apart all of the different things that don't look the way it should. We can focus on the imperfections of the wrinkles and being a little heavy, and we're aging, and our hair's changing color, and we got shorter, and, I mean, we just go on and on and on. My posture is not as good as it could be. And if you get obsessed about focusing on the idea of imperfections, and the key word here is it's the idea of imperfection. Because not everybody sees imperfections the same way. One person looks at something and goes, that's ugly. Another person looks at it and goes, it's perfect, it's beautiful. And so it's not real. When we're looking at that obsession on imperfections, we're  comparing it to the way we believe it should be. And a lot of times, the comparison of the way it should be isn't even real.

When people are comparing themselves to the body, they're comparing themselves to some model they saw in a magazine that's been touched up with Photoshop, or they're looking at some AI version of a human that isn't even a real human anymore on Facebook, not even realizing that it's not a human that's not a real human. It's literally AI built human. Now that people are watching and following and  interacting with, they don't even know it's a real person. And so it's the idea of, of the way it should be, right? It should be this way. And then we are obsessing about the imperfections, comparing the way we believe it should be. And it's the obsession of that imperfection that then drives a sense of disgust. 

Or we could do the same thing in relationship, or actions, or behavior, or the amount of money I make and feeling disgust in myself, because I'm not at a place other people are at, and I'm not far as long as other people are. And we can just keep going on and on and on with the way in which we can obsess about imperfections. And so when we allow the mind to obsess about imperfections, that tends to translate and turn into disgust. And the two things we wanna pay attention to is what's the imperfection we're focusing on, number one. But then we need to manage our perception of perfection. What is our perception of the way it's supposed to be, and make sure that as we adopt perceptions of how life should be, or where we should be at, or the way we should look to make sure that we are adopting real perceptions, number one. 

Because if we are relating to a fantasy perception, then we're never going to become, you know, we're never going to be able to move out of disgust, because we've literally decided we're going to live up to something that actually is impossible to attain. And if you're relating to something that's actually impossible to attain, man, is that a great way to get caught in and stuck in disgust potentially for the rest of our life? Right? And so instead of that, we want to look at these ideas of outcomes we want to achieve and make sure they're real and make sure they're healthy and make sure that they're possible. Is it real? Is it healthy? Is it possible? Will it actually give me what I'm looking for? Then if we're going to compare, instead of focusing on the imperfections, focus on progress. Focus on the ways in which you relate to that idea of yourself, that outcome you want to achieve, or acknowledge the progress you're making toward  that outcome, or what are the actions you're going to take from here to achieve that outcome and to realize it and to fulfill it. 

And again, all of this has to start with, and I cannot reinforce this enough, making sure that what you're relating to is healthy, is real and it's possible for you to attain. And then that's the thing you want to obsess about, and that's the thing you want to focus on. And then in terms of moving toward it, focus on the way in which you already emulate that. Focus on how you are that. Hey, you know what? I'm a human being. And so I can create that look if I want, I can create that aesthetic, I can create that level of health, I can become that fit because I have all of the mechanisms to make that possible, and I have access to the knowledge to achieve it. And so even if we're not there yet, we can still relate to it in a way we make it possible for us, right? Relatability, as though we're going to achieve it and we're moving in the direction, and it's really just a matter of time before we fulfill it. 

And so, remember, disgust is the obsession of imperfection, which often coincides with a fantasy idea of how something should be. And so if we eliminate that obsessing on imperfection and replace it with, how could this be possible? And make sure we're not focusing on an impossible idea of an outcome, but rather focus on an outcome and an image and an idea that we wish to achieve that's actually, again, real, possible and achievable. Right? It's believable. Then we're going to relate to life in a very, very different way. And then when we feel disgust, we tend to not treat ourselves very well. We tend to treat ourselves really poorly. We tend to isolate, we tend to actually, how do we say, refrain from the things that would actually produce the thing that we want, right? We tend to shy away from it. 

And so if we can catch ourself in that cycle of disgust, understand it has nothing to do with you. It has nothing, you know, it's not about you. It's not about us, so to speak. And then we can make that adjustment. Hey, what's the thing I want to strive for? What is it I want to achieve? And what are the ways in which I can make that happen? And then when we catch ourself obsessing about  imperfection, we want to take a pause and redirect. Hopefully this is helpful, and we'll see you again in a future session.

In this session, we're going to talk about the emotion rules as it pertains to peace. And so if we pay attention and you look at what the mind is doing when you're in kind of a peaceful, you know, you know, tranquil state, what we tend to think is everything is how it should be. And then we tend to acknowledge and reinforce how everything is exactly the way you know it's supposed to be. Sometimes you can experience it, you know, in nature, where just a sense of peace will come over you or like a deep sense of relaxation related to peace. And you just kind of are looking at the ocean, you're on the beach, and you're just going, man, like, everything really is the way it's supposed to be. And nature does all the things that it's supposed to do in exactly the way it was designed to do them. And it just does it day after day after day after day, and there's a perfection in it all, right? Or sometimes you're just with people that you really care about and you just have that sense, like you're exactly where you're supposed to be and you go, oh, man, everything's the way it's supposed to be. 

And so things don't have to be aligned perfectly for us to have that, that thought of everything's the way it's supposed to be at all. Like, we can, you know, have the perception or the belief, and we can reinforce that everything is the way it's supposed to be and access that peace anytime we want. Because, you know, peace is not a byproduct of everything being perfect, because life is never perfect. Like, that's just not the reality of life and going through life. Like, things are going to happen and things are not going to go as expected and challenges are going to occur. But when you look at the individuals who have really worked and they really do work for it and they've attained the greatest experiences of peace, the highest access to peace. When you think about monks who meditate for years and years and years their entire life, and they're trained from very young, you know, they train the perception that everything's the way it's supposed to be and this sense of acceptance, right, of all things. 

And so if you think about when you have been really challenged in your life, like, maybe you went through a separation or a divorce or, you know, moved through a health event or like some, you know, a loss of a job, right, or something like this, like the moment that the discord went away, right. It lasted for however long it lasted. Maybe it lasted for a day, maybe it went for six months, maybe it went for several years. And there was turmoil and there was sadness and there was hurt feelings, and we can kind of get caught in all of this. We're in the perception of, in some shape or form, how things aren't the way we want them to be, how things aren't the way they're supposed to be, and how somehow, you know, it's wrong, so to speak.

 And the moment that we find that, that moment of acceptance, that space of acceptance, where we look  around, we go, man, it's how it's supposed to be, right? It's like, It's like I have this better relationship that I'm in because I broke up. Like, if I wouldn't have divorced, I would have never found this better relationship that I found. Or, man, if I worked at that job and I just kept kind of, kind of going there day by day by day, I would have never, you know, built my business. I would have never started something new. I would have never progressed in my career, potentially. 

And so it's like we have this place of acceptance. All of a sudden, we're at peace with losing the job, or we're at peace with a relationship coming to a close, or we're at peace with losing somebody, or we're at peace with, you know, whatever it might be that we were holding onto, it should be different, right? The idea that it should be different. Peace occurs and comes over us. When we can look at a reality and go, ah, everything is the way it's supposed to be. And some people, they fight the idea of peace because they think, well, if I see everything as it's how it's supposed to be, I'm not going to grow. I'm not going to aspire to try to do more things. But the, but the opposite is true. When we can look at everything, we go, man, everything's the way it's supposed to be. We tend to access more inspiration. We tend to access more joy. We can access a greater sense of fulfillment within ourself. And the natural byproduct of that is we want to go explore. We want to go check out the world. We want to build things. We want to expand our current capacities. 

And so peace doesn't diminish the desire to want to perform or aspire to a different life. Matter of fact, peace is often the foundation, which is a launch pad that gives us access to do more with ourself and accomplish more in our life. And so think of peace as this. As this space to create from, right, a beautiful launch pad to go toward the next things in your life and a way to enjoy the journey a whole lot more than most people do, as opposed to struggling toward what they want to create all the time. So many individuals I know, they want a better quality of life in some way. They aspire to something beyond what they have, and they struggle all the time in the pursuit of it. And they don't even enjoy the outcome of more wealth or better health, or a more fit body or a great relationship when they actually get it. Like, they forget to actually kind of enjoy it and embrace it. Whereas peace gives us the opening to do all of those things, right. Peace gives us the ability to truly embrace things to their fullest, experience things to the fullest, and have the most permission and courage to kind of move forward and create things, because we understand,  oh, there's an accord to everything. 

And so to generate more peace in your life, to access more peace, is that theme of, hey, everything's the way it's supposed to be. Everything is exactly as it should be. It's the acceptance of how things are, not necessarily the judgment of how things are, but just accepting the way things are. Right? It's not always good, it's not always bad, right? But being able to look at something and going, well, I accept that's the way it is. And then there's a peace in that. Now we can go do something about it, right? As opposed to feeling frustrated about something or angry about something and then going, I need to go do something about it. We're going to tend to function at an inability when we get frustrated or angry, and we're trying to take action towards something because we're not thinking very clearly, right? We're not seeing things as in accord, so to speak. And so you can handle any other, any situation, and instead of get caught in, say, frustration or disappointment  or sadness, go, man, I accept that is how it is, which then gives us the ability to go, great. How am I going to bring myself to it? And what can I do to influence this space and myself to be better and achieve more? 

And so just play with that a little bit. Think of peace as the acceptance of what is, and understanding that everything is the way in which it should be. That moment of acknowledgement that everything's okay, everything's the way it should be. It's all in accord, and we can go there even when it's difficult, which gives us access to, and oftentimes a better way through the challenge. If I look at a challenge and I go, man, this is hard, this is challenging. I may not completely understand it, but I accept that it's happening and that it's, that it's how it's supposed to be. Otherwise it wouldn't be occurring, something else would be happening. Now we can see our way through it a little bit more effectively, so hopefully this is helpful and enjoy accessing peace a little bit more every day.