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[The following is the full transcript of this episode of Joey’s Performance Tune Up With Joey Klein. Please note that this episode, like all episodes, features Joey speaking unscripted and unedited. This video is captured in one take.]
In this session, we're going to dive into why intuition is not that gut instinct that we hear about so often. If you got that kind of ageold wisdom that I received when I was younger, when I would ask my parents or like a mentor question, sometimes I'd be like, hey, what should I do about X? And they'd be like, I don't know. What does your gut say? You know, I kind of have a translation for that today, which is they didn't know the answer and so that was what they told you or they really thought that it would be supportive. But unfortunately, as it pertains to transformation and producing new outcomes, results for yourself, listening to your gut is actually going to hinder you from creating what you want in your life. It's not going to support you. And we're going to explain why here in this training session.
And so let's really talk about your gut. Right. I don't know if you've ever been around a rescue animal like a rescue dog and gotten one of those from a pound or something like that, where you kind of choose to kind of help out an animal and save an animal as opposed to going to breeder or something like that. And if you've ever been around a rescue animal, they're very apprehensive, right? They don't trust very many people because they were mistreated in the past by somebody. And so they're very timid and they won't come up to you and they'll bark and they'll growl. And as far as they've learned, all humans are dangerous because the human beings that were around them at a time mistreated them. And so even though you might adopt this animal and they might be in your home and they're totally safe now and they're in a nice, loving and caring and supportive environment. The dog doesn't know that.
And so the dog's instinct, right, the dog's gut instinct is humans are dangerous, people are dangerous. And so that dog is going to shy away from you and it's going to stay away. Now, if you're patient, right, and you're kind to the dog and you give them little treats here and there and they warm up to you a little bit and you give them the pets and you chase ball with them a little and then they learn, oh, this person's okay. This individual isn't going to hurt me. And this is actually kind of fun. This is actually a good deal. People can be great. They got to learn that. They come to realize that, but their instinct, their gut instinct, is, I have to stay away from everybody, and that's not going to support them, right? Especially because they're going to require a human to survive if they're a domesticated animal.
And so it's very similar for us where in the past we've gotten those inner scars, so to speak, where we've learned that certain things are dangerous, and we've also learned that some things are supportive that aren't supportive. And we've got to learn to distinguish the differences. And the way to do that is through intuition and understanding what you aspire to create in your future, like we've talked about. Name the outcome that you want to create, start asking the question, hey, will this action I'm looking to take potentially move me toward the fulfillment of the result and the outcome that I want to create and that which I aspire to, or will it potentially not? And then we got to listen to or find that centered calm, that centered peace inside that is more of an indication of intuition, right? That centered knowing, and start really listening to that space. And oftentimes intuition is going to say, go left. And then your emotional pattern, your gut instinct is going to say, no, no, go right. And left is the way to not only becoming who you want to become, but also fulfilling the outcome that you aspire to for yourself. And so when you feel that ache in your stomach and your gut instinct is saying, don't go here, I'm not telling you to ignore your fear instinct, because there's value in that, for sure. What I am saying is, we got to do a double check. You can't rely on that gut instinct, especially around fear and anxiety, to necessarily be giving you the best advice.
Another example of this, I remember I went to a mentor of mine back in the day. Her name was Lu. She trained me for almost 16 years before she died of cancer. She was a world renowned psychologist. She kind of trained me inside the art of psychology, and I taught her kind of the art of inner training or meditation, mindfulness practices. This is over 20 years ago now, way before it was popularized, the way that it is today. And I remember I got invited to a party of a mutual client that she referred me to. And this client was like, joey, I want you to come to this Christmas party. And I was a kid from Wichita, Kansas. I grew up with not a lot of money. We had enough to get by, and that was about it. And going to a party put on by a famous actress was so far out of my comfort zone. I didn't even know what to do with myself. And I remember I sat down, and I remember I closed my eyes and I was like, I'm going to connect to intuition to give me my answer. And I was really clear I should not go to this party, right?
And I remember I'm going to Lu, who, keep in mind, was in the background working out the strings to get me to the party because she knew it would be good for me to be there. And I went to her and I said, hey, it's not who I am. It's not really my scene. I'm listening to my intuition, and my gut tells me it's just not for me. That's not the place for me to go. And excuse my language, but it's what she said. She was a 65 year old, 68 year old lady who literally looked at me and said, fuck your gut, Joey. Your intuition. You're going to that party. And I was like, but I don't have a suit. I don't have any clothes. And she's like, well, let me take care of that. And she picked up the phone and called her daughter, who was then at Lu's office in less than 30 minutes. And next thing I know, she took me to some fancy department store and decked me out in a suit and a tie for the party. So then I felt obligated, like I had to go because they bought me these expensive clothes that I can never afford. And at that party, I left with, like, 20 new clients. And it started my career and led me to literally what I'm doing today.
Before that party, I probably had a handful of clients, maybe five clients, six clients. Lu really advocated for me because she felt like I could make a difference for people, and she really wanted to support me. And so she set that up. And everything about who I was at the time was so scared of that. And I listened to my gut instinct, and it would have led me astray. Luckily, I had a mentor in my corner advocating for me in a very different way than I would have ever done for myself. But it taught me a very powerful lesson about intuition, about intuition being that bridge to who we want to become and what we want to achieve far greater and far beyond anything we believe we can achieve for ourself. And how if we rely on emotional pattern tied to gut instinct and that fear instinct, that fear response, it'll often keep you from the things that you can achieve.
And so understand, we all have those inner scars, like that rescue dog that has taught us to be afraid of things and shy away from things that we need to lean into in order to create the lives that we want. Another example of that, so many people, they want to build wealth, they want to make wealth, and they shy away from investing because they've lost money in the past. And so if you listen to your gut instinct and you never invest again, that's going to keep you from the wealth that you could build in the life that you could know. But you should listen to that fear instinct and go, okay, what did I learn from that loss? What do I need to do? How do I educate myself so that as I pursue my next step toward achieving the financial aspirations that I have, I do it in a way that's going to have me succeed this round so I don't repeat the same mistakes from the past. So listen to your gut so you don't repeat the same mistakes from the past. But don't mistake it for intuition. Intuition is guidance toward the realization of who you want to become and the life you want to create. Gut instinct is always going to be connected to and tied to the emotional patterns from our past in some way. And so they can be good for recreating the past. But gut instinct is not great for the aspirations you have for your future.
And so just start paying attention to that distinction as you move forward and go, do I feel a little something in my stomach? What does my instinct say here? Acknowledge it. But then always remember to double check that instinct with that question. Hey, will this step take me to the life that I want to create? And can I see a practical bridge toward that? If you can't see it, don't do it. If it has a plausible opportunity, or even if it's a remote possibility in the outcome happening, then you want to pursue that direction, even if it's uncomfortable, and oftentimes even more so when it's uncomfortable because that's probably your nervous system saying change is in the direction of this action. It's probably the change you want. But change is always uncomfortable in the beginning until we normalize it and then we thrive. And so enjoy. Hope you have an awesome day and we look forward to seeing you in a future session.